Men are Bored

“Wyd” “you busy” “you up”, we’ve all gotten these texts. In this generation conversation is a no starter, getting to grow, and take time is a long-forgotten form. We have forgotten how to talk to each other. Which has affected our dating. Our young men have been struggling, OBVIOUSLY, but now this time it’s different. Hypermasculinity has pushed them away from anything they deem as “too feminine”(in a derogatory way). Communication and connecting with women on a deeper level has been one of those things. In context, I’d like to bring up that when I discuss men, I’m speaking for the cis, straight, man. 

This generation of men has been made to believe that women would and should want to be with them no matter what. No effort, communication, time, or commitment is needed, just the fact that they’re a man and they’re a “need” that girls would want. They have been made to believe that girls want that, that we’re happy in that role. Delusional yes but it’s how they see the world. 

So often have I been entertaining situationships have I seen myself get the ick from the lack of communication and literacy. It seems men have forgotten how to woo a lady. The conversation seems to lack depth or what people my age would say “It’s dry”. They never ask about me, my interests, wants, career, etc. They never truly take the time to get to know me, like a book, they see the cover page, get interested, buy it, and then put it on a shelf. They don’t actually want to read me, just own me. After a couple of weeks of dry texting, silent phone calls, and a couple of dates, they want to jump to the dating stage. They want you to entertain them, you have to plan the dates, make the conversation, dumb yourself down, and wait for them. Men don’t actually see the women they just see them as an idea or toy that they can brush off and play with whenever they want. You might be asking what does this have to do with male boredom?

Men are bored with their lives, friendships, jobs, whatever, so they use women to entertain them. The late-night texts, last-minute plans, stale communication, and no effort have proven that men don’t know what to do with their time. They want to form deeper connections but don’t know how to. The only way they think they can do that is through the form of sex. Intimacy = sex, their craving intimacy, therefore sex is what they “need”. 

In conclusion, boredom is running rampant and the way hypermasculinity has shaped men has caused them to seek intimacy solely through sex. That’s why you get those last-minute/late-night texts because men are vampires.